The Equality Wheel is based on the Duluth Model and used with permission from Domestic Abuse Intervention Programs.
Non-threatening behaviour
- Talking and acting so that she feels safe and comfortable expressing herself and doing things.
Respect
- Listening to her non-judgmentally
- Being emotionally affirming and understanding
- Valuing opinions
Trust and support
- Supporting her goals in life
- Respecting her right to her own feelings, friends, activities and opinions
Honesty and accountability
- Accepting responsibility for self
- Acknowledging past use of violence
- Admitting being wrong
- Communicating openly and truthfully
Responsible parenting
- Sharing parental responsibilities
- Being a positive non-violent role model for the children
Shared responsibility
- Mutually agreeing on a fair distribution of work
- Making family decisions together
Economic partnership
- Making money decisions together
- Making sure both partners benefit from financial arrangements
Negotiation and fairness
- Seeking mutually satisfying resolutions to conflict
- Accepting change
- Being willing to compromise