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Equality wheel – text version

The Equality Wheel is based on the Duluth Model and used with permission from Domestic Abuse Intervention Programs.

Non-threatening behaviour

  • Talking and acting so that she feels safe and comfortable expressing herself and doing things.


  • Listening to her non-judgmentally
  • Being emotionally affirming and understanding
  • Valuing opinions

Trust and support

  • Supporting her goals in life
  • Respecting her right to her own feelings, friends, activities and opinions

Honesty and accountability

  • Accepting responsibility for self
  • Acknowledging past use of violence
  • Admitting being wrong
  • Communicating openly and truthfully

Responsible parenting

  • Sharing parental responsibilities
  • Being a positive non-violent role model for the children

Shared responsibility

  • Mutually agreeing on a fair distribution of work
  • Making family decisions together

Economic partnership

  • Making money decisions together
  • Making sure both partners benefit from financial arrangements

Negotiation and fairness

  • Seeking mutually satisfying resolutions to conflict
  • Accepting change
  • Being willing to compromise