Checklist: Forms of abuse

Isolation

• Isolates you from others
• Tells you that you cannot do something
• Is jealous about who you see
• Monitors your time, makes you account for where you were
• Does not allow you to leave the house
• Restricts your use of the car
• Alienates you from family/friends
• Keeps you from getting medical care/counselling
• Tries/threatens to turn children/people against you
• Deprives you of sleep

Anger and Intimidation

• Changes his mood suddenly
• Gives silent treatment
• Shouts or yells
• Pounds fists on table
• Throws or kicks something
• Stomps out of the house
• Slams doors
• Says that he has “nothing to lose”
• Has criminal background/current activity
• Has third parties monitor/harass you

Psychological Abuse

• Blames you for his problems
• Blames you for miscarriages/ termination of pregnancy
• Drives cars in a frightening way
• Threatens to:
• Leave the relationship
• See someone else
• Take children away from you
• Come after you if you leave
• Have you committed to an institution
• Hurt or kill you
• Hurt or kill the children
• Hurt or kill himself
• Have someone else kill you, your family, friends, etc.